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Why Shared Parenting? A Few Facts About Kids of Divorce and Separation. Teen violence and eventual incarceration is strongly related to father absence. See Shared Parenting Research. Consider how you would feel as an adult if you could see your children only four days a month. More than likely you would miss them terribly. Children, with their fragile, still-developing emotions, often suffer much more. Sadly though, most children of divorce see their non-custodial parent only four days a month, and many see them even less. Research on divorce shows that children with shared parenting do better in school and have lower rates of depression, delinquency, and other undesirable outcomes.

Why Contribute to the SPC? The SPC, formed in 1997 and incorporated in 2002, lobbies the CT legislature, sends letters, meets with legislators and testifies on proposed bills.  We publish letters and articles related to shared parenting. We do interviews with the press. We maintain and develop our website and we are currently researching our extensive database on CT divorce cases. As a member you will receive regular updates on our activities, invitations to attend meetings and a newsletter. Most importantly, you will know that 100% of your donation contributes to improved outcomes for children.

Divorce or separation does not end a child’s need for a father and a mother.

4 thoughts on “Join SPC now!

  1. Dear John Clapp,

    We met a couple of years ago at the Hartford Superior Court, and I know you have had a couple of meetings with my husband, Peter Szymonik. I was also present during the Task Force in Spring 2014 to reform the Judicial system to accommodate shared parenting. I want to be more involved, and I was wondering if there is an open space with your board of directors?

    I recently published a book on my Connecticut Family Court experience with losing custody of my son. My book is entitled, “Broken System, Broken Heart” and is available on Amazon and also on my personal website.

    In short, my mission from day one was to have a “shared parenting” plan for my preschool aged son, who has autism. For seven years, my proposal to the court has been routinely rejected because of the anger of my ex towards me. The court cited for years that until my ex can feel more comfortable with it, it won’t happen. We are both fit parents. A shared parenting law would prevent my constitutionally-protected fundamental rights to a parent/child relationship from being stripped away, and give my son the best chances, being a special needs child.

    As I said, I want to be more involved since I won’t be pursuing justice in the family court anymore, once my December 2016 trial is complete. This is for personal reasons. I want to shift my energy to a legislative/advocacy position, and be done with the Superior Court (I will be appealing the memorandum when it comes out, if my parental rights are again frustrated).

    If you have no openings at this time, can you tell me the benefits to membership?

    I saw you were featured in the NPO’s website. I met Ned Holstein at the Divorce Corp. conference in 2014. That was an amazing experience!

    Regards,
    Monica Szymonik (formerly Peters)

  2. Please add me to your mailing list. I need help with a very severe divoce case in New haven
    parental alienation, false allegations and judge stonewalling
    please help

  3. My name is John Sakon. Kindly add me to your mailing list. johnsakon@yahoo.com.

    I have been subject to events that will become a landmark case in Connecticut. I was married to a woman who was an expert in Domestic Violence. Unfortunately, she was also an alcoholic and was violent when she drank. I was injured on several occasions and have the pictures to prove it. Like any man, I was fearful of calling the police.

    When I threatened to divorce my wife for drinking and driving with my son, (she had been drinking heavily for most the month), the next day she created an incident and called the police. It did not matter that she was drunk. It did not matter that she assulted me and chased me around the house. It did not matter that my 6-year old son ran away from her to seek the safety of the father. The man was arrested on the charge of disorderly conduct. The reason given for the arrest? I had ripped up a piece of paper in my home. It did not matter that the paper contained fighting words and was written by my wife. Yes, that is the actual testimony of the arresting officer.

    A PO order was issued. I was subsequently arrested five additional times for violations of that protective order. My bail was increased to $1,250,000 and I spent 4 months in prison as I could not make bail.
    @I was arrested for telling my wife that I loved her.
    @I was arrested for having my minister contact my wife to make arrangements for me to see my child. I was advised by Judge Lobo to use a third party to make such arrangements.
    @I was arrested for walking past my wife in a court of law. The arrest was made in great part on the testimony of a public defender. A man who was having an adulterous affair with my wife.
    @I was arrested for sending a communication to her divorce attorney. I was pro se and advised by Judge Buzzoto that I was allowed to communicate with her attorney.
    @I was arrested for sending an email to Little League asking the team manager to add my ex to the team email list. My bail was set at $400,000 for this offense.
    @I was arrested for giving my son a $100 bill on his birthday. I asked my son what he wanted on his birthday and he said he wanted a haircut, clothes and legos. I wrote on the bill the money was only for a haircut and clothes. My bail was set at $500,000 bringing my total bail to $1,150,000. Not able to make bail, I spent four months in prison.

    Did you know that according to the Centers for Disease Control in 2011 900,000 more men were victims of DV than women? Did you know that in 2016, 27,000 Protective Orders were issued by the Criminal Courts without a hearing? And most of those PO were against men? Did you know that private agencies, such as Interval House of Hartford can issue a report to a criminal judge at the time of any arrest arraignment, can falsely accuse a man, libel and slander him and that report is not subject to disclosure to the defendant or his attorney? And such agencies such as Interval House only aid women? And based upon that report, a man can lose his home, have his children taken from him and have his constitutional rights violated?

    When a man refuses to plead guilty to domestic violence charges the State will double down and arrest him again on some foolish charge. The idea is to get him to plead. This serves the current agenda of the feminist movement that appears to rule the legislature.

    All told, I was facing 15 felonies and 120 years in prison. I took every charge to trial and was found innocent. A jury set a record and came back with a verdict on the first 8 charges in 18 minutes. They did not believe my ex-wife for one second. However, by this time the cost of my defense was $250,000 and I was broke.

    However, as a direct result of all these arrests, I lost custody of my child. This was my second marriage and I had no arrest record for 63 years. During my first marriage, there was not even a hint of a claim of DV, I had a mediated divorce after 27 years and my first two children turned out to be a Dr. and a librarian.

    Now my 8 year old son is being raised by a woman who has not held a job in 27 years and a man who courted a married woman in a religious temple and had an affair with her. The man is supporting the child.

    What people do not understand is the Family Relations division of the Courts makes millions by forcing men to enroll in family violence classes.
    What people do not understand is local police receive federal monies for every felony that occurs in their district. The most common felony is a violation of a Protective Order. So if the local police is looking for funding, you seize every opportunity to break up a family.

    There is much, much more to this story. And I am happy to give lectures as to the gross failings of our legal system and how our laws are destroying the family.
    As I said, this will be a landmark case. I am suing everybody.

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