When does child support interfere with good parenting? When is it excessive?

Kimberly Seals Allers writes in the New York Times about “redefining what child support really is, for our family .”  She recently petitioned the Family Court in Queens to forgive over $38,000 that her ex-husband owed in child support.

Ms. Allers writes: “My ex-husband has always given our children his time, whether he had money or not. He currently makes payments to me directly when he is able. But his arrears have accumulated during years when he was unemployed or underemployed and either paid less than the monthly payment ($600) granted when we divorced, or nothing at all. So when our children were young, after our separation and early in our divorce, I negotiated new currencies such as additional time when I needed child care, meal preparation, haircuts and even helping with home repairs, instead of acting as if a cash payment was all he had to offer our children. The look on their faces when he came to pick them up was more than worth it.”

The full article is at: http://mobile.nytimes.com/blogs/parenting/2015/04/19/forgiving-38750-in-child-support-for-my-kids-sake/?_r=0&referrer

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2 thoughts on “When does child support interfere with good parenting? When is it excessive?

  1. I’m glad this is getting the attention it so desperately needs in the media. For every reasonable person, such as Ms Allers, who understands that her childrens’ best interests are also served by treating her ex-spouse in a fair and reasonable manner, there are many cases where this is unfortunately *not* the case, both by the ex and the system as a whole, as shown in this NYTimes article: http://www.nytimes.com/roomfordebate/2015/04/23/collecting-child-support-without-making-matters-worse/the-child-support-system-should-help-not-punish-poor-fathers

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